WELCOME TO ELLEN SPENCER COACHING
Stop Managing Your Life and Start Inhabiting It
Coaching for capable women who feel stuck and exhausted by self-pressure to reconnect with what matters, experience genuine belonging, and move toward a more meaningful, engaged life through small, sustainable actions.
Feel seen, loosen self-pressure and move toward a more meaningful, fulfilling life with support tailored to you.
When the Weight of the World Gets Too Heavy
You’re not stuck because you’re incapable, but because you’ve been carrying too much alone.
On the outside you’re competent, responsible, capable, self-aware, and you know what matters, while on the inside you sometimes feel:
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Quietly alone despite everything you have built
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Unseen, even by the people closest to you
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Misunderstood
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Disconnected from passion and desire
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Unable to dream or imagine life beyond later today
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Pressured by unspoken rules and expectations
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Pulled in so many directions you’ve lost clarity on what matters, or if anything matters at all
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Longing for connection, but unsure where and with who you can show your whole full self
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Composed, but white knuckling life
The Patterns That Keep You Stuck
Chronic Self-Pressure
When self-pressure takes the wheel, you:
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hold yourself to invisible standards
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held back by worry about failure and imperfection
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measure your worth by output
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compare yourself to others,
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harshly criticize yourself as a means to change your behavior.
From the outside, you’re functioning, while on the inside, you’re tired from holding it all together!
Disconnecting From What Matters
You didn't wake up one day without passion. At some point, being capable became more reinforced than being curious, being reliable became more rewarded than being expressive and being composed became safer than being fully seen. When everything becomes a performance, even meaningful things start to feel heavy.
You stop asking:
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What do I want?
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What feels alive?
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Where do I belong?
And now you find yourself successful and capable but, perhaps, unsure what you actually want or a tension between the life you are living and the life you quietly long for.
Isolation in Capability
Being “the capable, composed one” can be lonely. You don’t want:
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to complain
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to burden anyone
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to risk appearing weak or vulnerable to others
So, you carry it quietly and believe you are meant to carry it alone.
The challenge is that humans aren’t built for meaningful growth in isolation.
The Hybrid Coaching Experience
The Best of Both Worlds: Group + 1:1
In this small, intimate group coaching space, you don’t have to perform. You can show up exactly as you are and you will see yourself reflected in other women, feel your self-pressure soften, and experience true belonging as an active part of growth. Over 8 weeks, you will explore reflection, values-guided action, and relational growth — in a space designed for presence, experimentation, and meaningful momentum. This is not therapy, and it is not a step-by-step instruction manual. You will be invited to take ownership of your growth in real time.
Optional 1:1 sessions provide individualized support to explore personal patterns, clarify personal values, and integrate insights from the group into your life.
The Group Container: Connection & Reflection
1 VirtualMeeting Per Week (90 Minutes). Small, intimate group sessions create a safe space where you are fully seen, understood, and supported. You practice showing up as your full self, without performing or managing impressions. Belonging becomes a lived experience, not a concept.
(Optional) 1:1 Container: Personalized Integration
3 Private Sessions During Cohort (60 Minutes Each). 1:1 sessions allow you to target personal challenges and blockages with exactness through exploring private patterns or fears that don't surface in the group. We focus on small, actionable steps toward your values and goals, matched to your capacity and tailored guidance to translate group insights into your daily life.
The Hybrid Advantage
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Belonging + Individual Focus: You feel seen in the group, and your unique experience is honored in 1:1
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Flexibility: Participate fully in the group while having support for moments that require privacy
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Amplified Growth: Insights from group reflection are integrated and reinforced through personalized coaching
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Efficiency: You get the richness of shared experience without sacrificing personal depth
Founding Cohort Starting Soon
This is a small, intimate founding cohort. Enrollment is limited. Schedule your no-cost 30-minute discovery call to see if this container is right for you.
Prefer private 1:1 coaching instead? Indicate that on your waitlist form and we’ll explore your options together.
In this space, change doesn’t happen through pressure.
It happens through practice, support, and expanded capacity
Most coaching focuses on productivity, mindset, or surface-level skills. Here, we create a relational laboratory: a space where loneliness, fears, contradictions, and longing are not only named but actively transformed through structured interaction, reflection, and experimentation with new ways of engaging with life.
The patterns that keep you stuck were learned and reinforced over years. In this space, you begin practicing something different: being seen without performing, expressing yourself without over-managing, and choosing based on what matters rather than what’s expected.
As themes evolve with the needs of the group, the work consistently supports you in:
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Feeling genuinely seen and understood
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Experiencing shared humanity and belonging
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Reconnecting with your values and desires
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Taking small, meaningful steps toward a life that feels aligned
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Deepening the work through optional 1:1 support when needed
Change doesn’t come from insight alone, but when buddied up with safe connection, repeated new experiences, and action aligned with what truly matters.
This space is for you if you:
This space may not be for you if:
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Feel stuck under the weight of constant self-pressure
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Are exhausted from over-performing, over-producing, and white-knuckling your life
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Quietly question expectations you never consciously chose
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Notice how often you measure your worth by what you accomplish
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Long for deeper meaning, passion, and fulfillment, but feel disconnected from it
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Crave authentic connection, yet hesitate to show up imperfectly
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Want to build momentum without burning yourself out
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Are willing to experiment, reflect, and grow inside a safe, intimate environment
You’re looking for:
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High-pressure accountability
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Quick productivity hacks
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Surface-level mindset shifts
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A space to compete or compare
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A rigid step-by-step formula to follow
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An expert to tell you exactly what to do
There are programs built for that, however, this isn’t one of them.
If you’re the one who holds it all together, carrying more than anyone sees, and you’re ready live from meaning instead of pressure, you belong in this room. Founding Cohort starting soon.
Prefer private 1:1 only? You can indicate that on the waitlist form.
*Disclaimer: This program is coaching. It is not therapy and is not a substitute for mental health treatment. If you are navigating acute distress or trauma, active crisis, or need clinical support, working with a licensed mental health professional is important and recommended. This space can complement therapy, but it does not replace it.
About Ellen Spencer
For years, I managed life. From the outside, I was responsible, high-achieving and reliable. Inside, I was bracing under the pressure I placed on myself as a mother, wife, professional, friend trying to do everything “right.” I could be surrounded by people who loved me and still feel alone. Unseen in my actual experience. I played the role of composed, “I’m fine. I’ll figure it out.”Until one day someone asked me what I wanted for my life, what I was moving toward.
I didn’t know what I wanted for dinner that night let alone what I wanted for the future. Somewhere along the way, life had become about output (producing, proving, demonstrating worth) that I found myself surviving, not thriving. I was so focused on being useful that I had quietly lost connection to desire, direction, and what was truly meaningful to me.
I’m now a meaning and purpose coach with advanced training in behavior science, contextual approaches, and relational dynamics.
My work integrates:
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Behavioral precision
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Capacity-building practices
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Values-guided action
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Relational safety
Not as theory or insight alone, but as lived practice. I believe in sustainable change, not reinvention or pressure-based growth.
I created this space for women who are strong, thoughtful, and tired of carrying so much alone. Women who don’t need fixing, but need room to reconnect with what matters, to show up imperfectly, to belong while they grow. You don’t need someone to push you harder, just someonewho knows how to help you loosen the grip, so you may expand from there.
Founding Cohort: What You Are Investing In
This is your chance to join the first iteration of this hybrid container, a space designed for reflection, action, and meaningful growth. This is not therapy; it is coaching. You’re investing in guidance, facilitation, and a container that supports your real-world progress.
What You Are Actually Buying
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Structured Guidance: Weekly frameworks to reflect, experiment, and grow
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Behavior Focused Facilitation: Behavior science, ACT principles, and relational practice
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Relational Container: Safe space to show up imperfectly and be seen
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Applied Practice: Real-world exercises to take meaningful action
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Optional 1:1 Support: Personalized coaching to clarify goals, reflect on progress, and deepen integration
Group Only
A relational container for reflection, practice, and connection.
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Weekly virtual live sessions for reflection, practice, and connection
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Small, intimate group size to ensure you are seen and heard (Maximum 5 participants)
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Experiential exercises + guided discussion
8x 90-minute weekly group sessions
(Live on Zoom)
$850
(or 2 payments of $450)
Hybrid: Group + 1:1
Everything from the group container + Individual precision for deeper focus
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Personalized support for specific challenges or goals
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Integration of insights from group work into your life
8x 90-minute weekly group sessions
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3x 60-minute 1:1 sessions
$1250
(or 3 payments of $450)
Future cohorts will reflect expanded content, refined structure, and updated pricing. Joining now secures your founding member status.
Click "Claim Your Spot" below to schedule your no-cost 30-minute discovery call. During the call, we’ll clarify if this container is the right fit and answer any questions you have.
If a group setting does not feel right for you right now, or if you prefer strictly individual guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to inquire about 1:1 only coaching options. We can explore a path that fits your current needs and capacity. Simply click the button above and select the option for 1:1.
You don’t need to become someone new, just a space where you can stop bracing and start living.
Format & Details
This is an intimate, live, virtual container designed to cultivate presence, accountability, and relational depth.
Payment Plans
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Pay-in-full or structured auto-pay available
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First payment required to secure your spot
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Remaining installments auto-charged according to schedule, within program duration
Duration: 8 weeks
Session Length: 90 minutes
Platform: Live on Zoom
Group Size: Maximum 5 participants
Cameras: Required for full participation and connection
Recordings: Sessions are not recorded to maintain confidentiality and preserve the integrity of the container
Attendance Expectation: Due to the live, interactive nature of this program, please enroll only if you can prioritize attending each session. If you miss a session, you are responsible for connecting with a fellow participant to stay aligned with the group process.
Every detail is designed to help you engage fully, experiment safely, and grow in real time.
Refund Policy
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Full refund available within 7 days of the first live session
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After 7 days, all sales are final
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Payment plans must be completed regardless of participation
Limited founding spots available. Enrollment includes a no-cost 30-minute discovery call to determine fit and clarify any questions.
Prefer 1:1 only? Indicate that on your waitlist form, and we’ll explore options together.
Frequently Asked Questions
Who is this program for?
This program is designed for women who are strong, thoughtful, and quietly exhausted from carrying too much alone. It’s for those ready to experiment, reflect, and grow in a safe, supportive environment — not for quick fixes, high-pressure productivity hacks, or surface-level mindset shifts.
Do I have to participate in the group?
Group sessions are at the core of the program, creating the relational container for connection, practice, and belonging. If a group isn’t right for you, or you prefer individual support, you’re welcome to reach out to discuss 1:1 options.
What if I can’t make every session?
A summary of the topic discussed and prompts for reflection will be provided following each session so you can stay engaged even if you miss a session. The program is designed for flexibility, not perfection.
Is this therapy?
No. This is coaching, not therapy, and it is not a substitute for mental health treatment. If you are navigating acute distress, trauma, or mental health concerns, we recommend working with a licensed professional. This program can complement therapy, but does not replace it.
How much time will this require?
Plan for weekly 90-minute group sessions, 3 flexibly scheduled 60-minute 1:1 sessions spaced throughout the program (optional), plus small between-session exercises. Everything is designed to integrate into your life sustainably, not overwhelm it.
What is the refund policy?
You may request a full refund within 7 days of the first live session (minus processing fees). After 7 days, all sales are final. Payment plans must be completed regardless of participation.
How do payment plans work?
Your first installment secures your spot. Remaining payments are automatically charged on scheduled dates within the program duration.
If you’re ready to stop carrying self-pressure alone and start moving toward what matters,
this program is designed to meet you there